CAN WE SPEAK OF " PSYCHOLOGICAL POLLUTION"?
by Alfredo Anania
When we speak of pollution, our mind automatically go toward
the natural environment - that is the earth, atmospheric and sea
ecosystem; rarely we think the psychological pollution within the human environment
where we develop our private or working
or social life.
frequently the uneasiness, the insidious chronic stress or
the psychosomatic ailment originate principally from the contact
with those many people who daily trouble what we can call "the
psychological atmosphere of the interpersonal relationships".
Here we don't allude to a relational context that appears exasperated by the presence of
some clearly disturbed -
mentally or similar ills - individual, instead we make reference to substantially
in good psychiatric shape people but whose
personality is animated by anxiety, ambivalence, hostile tension or
excessive dependence and so on.
one well knows that own and other's life is not static but
depends on the psychological (relational, family, social)
"field" created by the interacting among the human
beings, but few people in truth consider as a person
can change with the diversity of the place, the situations
and the met people, so, varying the life context, the
individual can discover itself as if a diverse person.
same concept of personality - it comes from the Latin term "persona",
whose etymological means it is "mask" - cannot be interpreted
simply as the fruit of a genetic constellation but rather it must
be considered as a dynamic interlacement (susceptible, therefore,
of change with the time) between constitutional factors and experiential
factors and they cross with the environmental ecosystem in which
the individual develops his own existence.
follows that some dimensions of our personality characteristics surely are
activated by some characteristics of those people we are
more frequently in contact,
but it is also truth that those dimensions could simply remain
at the potential state if unconsciously didn't exist in us something
that raises and maintains active in the other just those psychological
parts that bother us.
often desire the spontaneous other people's change or worse we
try to modify the other people's behaviour but we often forget
that we can only change ourselves; however in the meeting with the other
certainly we could discover that only our behavioural transformation
has the power to change our relationship with the other.
is not a tyrannical manager without an unconscious inclination
by the employee to depend as a slave; an infantile wife cannot
exist without to be so dreamed by a possessive husband; a sadist doesn't
exist in absence of a masochist; a seducer doesn't exist without
another person desirous to be irresistibly
conclusion is: often we complain about the other people's behaviour
and "badly" we breathe because of the polluted psychological
atmosphere that the other one, it seems, is creating, but more rarely
we are willing to ask ourselves if, despite the appearances, a
deep interior "something" can contribute to maintain
just that creates us the greater bother!